THE LADY BEHING THE FEELING BODIES DRAWINGS
The lady behind the Feeling Bodies figures is a dynamic, lively and incredibly positive and generous woman from Durban, South Africa called Candice Smith. Our mutual passion for helping to bring greater Emotional Awareness to the world brought us together and led to a most unexpected partnership.
A MOST UNEXPECTED PARTNERSHIP
When I used to google “Feeling Magnets” to see if we showed up on the first page, I discovered another website that always came in second place. It was the website of a lady in South Africa who called herself “The Emotion Lady”. She had created a tool quite similar to Feeling Magnets but with drawings that were simply stunning!
I knew right away that if I were to create a version with images or drawings that this is exactly how I would want to do it. They were quite simple stick figures that managed with only few simple strokes to express emotions so powerfully.
THE EVOLUTION OF FEELING MAGNETS TOOLS
As I am preparing to launch the third tool to help people reconnect and discover their emotions I have been reminiscing and traveling down memory lane. Most of you may not have followed since the beginning but I thought you might find it interesting to discover how Feeling Magnets came to be.
FIVE TIPS TO EMOTION-POTTY-TRAIN YOUR KIDS
Children are full of emotions all the time. Actually we all are. But the younger we are, the less of a filter we have. When kids feel something, it just comes out. That’s partly because they just follow their instincts and let out whatever comes. And it’s partly because they don’t get what is going on inside them. They don’t know what they can control and what not.
THE SECRET TO HAPPINESS
Looking at the number of self-help books, online courses and retreats that exist it’s clear that we all just want to be happy and are willing to try many things to get there. I was hungry for tools, thirsty for advice and I devoured books and courses that seemed to contain answers. They all seemed to promise to give us the answer to happiness, to fulfilment, to finding our purpose or to abundance. At some point, I found myself very critical and suspicious of all these words of wisdom or step-be-step manuals to happiness. I thought, how can each of them be promising us the ultimate answer to all our problems? If they worked, there wouldn’t need to be so many of these books and courses.
WHY BOTHER WITH PAYING ATTENTION TO YOUR POSITIVE EMOTIONS?
Most of us like to feel happy, proud, grateful, calm and excited. For many, these feelings are a big reason why we do what we do - buying things, creating something, or behaving in a certain way - so that we can feel these or some other pleasant emotions. It seems logical right? Actually, it would be quite confusing or even slightly sadistic if it were otherwise. So here’s the news: there are more advantages to feeling these emotions than simply feeling “good”.
NEW! FEELING MAGNETS FOR KIDS
Growing up we learn many lessons for life, we feel intense emotions along the way and we experience many firsts. Our first disappointments, the loss of a pet, the fear of the first day of school or moving to a new place. The list is endless and so are the feelings that come up.
Somehow we all get through life without necessarily learning about our emotions - what they really are, what they mean and how to deal with them. If we were to grade our knowledge and ability related to emotions, most of us would just barely pass. We don’t want to just pass through life, we want to excel, to flourish and to thrive. To do this we need to master our emotions and ideally, as early as possible.
THE POWER OF COMMUNICATING OUR TRUE FEELINGS
There is great power in communicating our authentic feelings with others. The first step is to recognize our feelings ourselves (here some help with that: The Secret Techniques to Figure Out What You Feel) and then after to consciously share them when appropriate.
When I say « consciously share our emotions » I don’t mean an emotional outburst or telling someone they made you feel furious, disappointed or afraid. When I mean is that we share how we are feeling in a way where we are not blaming the other, but simply...
THREE STEPS TO SHIFTING YOUR FEELINGS
We we are feeling annoyed, lonely, nervous or, for that matter, any feeling that we don’t feel so comfortable with, it’s easy to wish the feeling wasn’t there or that we were feeling something more pleasant instead. If you have ever tried to ignore the unwanted feeling or to force yourself to « be happy », you will know that it doesn’t work like that. So how can we shift our feelings if we are stuck in the land of unpleasant emotions?
FEELING MAGNETS AT THE VIENNA INTERNATIONAL SCHOOL
Earlier this year, I was invited to the Vienna International School (VIS) to witness how they had integrated Feeling Magnets and the My Feelings Box in the school and classrooms. It was an incredibly powerful experience.
It started with the primary school Principal, Martha Ross, getting herself a set of Feeling Magnets as she transitioned from maternity leave with her little one into her new role, in a new school and a new city.
INTRODUCING CHILDREN TO THE MY FEELINGS BOX
We often hear from parents and teachers about the impact that the My Feelings Box has had on their children. They tell us that the kids use the My Feelings Box to share what is going on for them. This often sparks very interesting and constructive conversations and valuable teaching moments. Teachers tell us that the kids ask for the My Feelings Box when they find themselves in conflict with friends. Parents share stories of finding their children spontaneously pulling out their My Feelings Box when they get home from school.
Sometimes we get questions about how one might introduce the children to the My Feelings Box, especially when we think that a child might not want to engage with talking about their feelings. There are many different ways to do this and which one is best depends on the kids, your relationship to them and their situation.
5 STEPS TO STOP STRUGGLING WITH YOUR EMOTIONS (AND HAVE THEM WORK FOR YOU)
Sometimes intense emotions can feel overpowering and we seem to lose control of ourselves. We all know that feeling when we just can’t think straight, when we have things to do but just can’t get to doing them or when all we can think about is how worked up we are. We might be feeling overcome with anger when things are not going our way, paralized by fear when we don’t think we can cope with something, or dragged down by sadness when we lose something important to us. Yes, emotions do seem to take us over at times.