NEW! FEELING MAGNETS FOR KIDS
Growing up we learn many lessons for life, we feel intense emotions along the way and we experience many firsts. Our first disappointments, the loss of a pet, the fear of the first day of school or moving to a new place. The list is endless and so are the feelings that come up.
Somehow we all get through life without necessarily learning about our emotions - what they really are, what they mean and how to deal with them. If we were to grade our knowledge and ability related to emotions, most of us would just barely pass. We don’t want to just pass through life, we want to excel, to flourish and to thrive. To do this we need to master our emotions and ideally, as early as possible.
This is why we have created Feeling Magnets for children so that they can learn these things earlier than we did and so that they can be better equipped for life.
To start building a healthy relationship with emotions there are two steps:
Step 1: Be able to recognize the emotion we are feeling and to name it.
It sounds very simple and it is… if we practice. We noticed that most adults have a very limited vocabulary when it comes to naming their feelings (most adults can think of only 5 to 10 feelings and we have over 600!). This gap goes way back to the fact that while growing up we aren’t often encouraged to specifically identify how we feel and to really name it. We generally just stick with sad, happy, angry and scared. And even with these, we don't always get it right.
Science in the last few years has shown us that accurately naming our feelings actually decreases their power over us. Say your child comes home from school feeling upset. If you ask them what is going on they might say "nothing" or they might just say "I had a bad day". If we leave it at that then their feelings stay locked up inside of them... likely to explode at some point.
The best thing we can do in such a situation to help them navigate through their emotions is to ask them about their day so that we can then help them identify what they might be feeling. If your child says that he or she got yelled at by the teacher in front of the whole class, you can then empathize with them by saying "It can feel very embarrassing to be yelled at, especially when there are other people around to witness it. I often feel embarrassed when my boss gets cross with me in front of my colleagues. Are you feeling embarrassed?" This may or may not be the exact right feeling but it starts the conversation with your child that then allows them to express their feelings and to know that whatever they are feeling, it is OK.
Naming emotions allows our children to be clearer about what is going on inside them and allows them to take back the power over these feelings so that they can choose how they want to act or behave.
Step 2: Knowing what the feelings are there to tell us.
Once our children can accurately know what they are feeling, they can also begin to understand the valuable messages that these feelings carry. Yes, feelings don’t just pop up out of the blue. They come for a specific reason, to tell us something important. It's incredibly valuable for children to learn how to listen to their feelings and to understand them.
Say your child is feeling sad because he was let down by a friend. It will help them to accept the sadness if they know why it is there and how to deal with it. Feeling sadness, tells us that we have lost something, or might lose something and it reminds us of what is important to us. In this case, your child might feel sad because they seem to have lost the friend they thought they could count on. This feeling can also remind your child how valuable reliable friends are. To learn more about the different emotions and their messages visit: www.emotionsuperpower.com
We don’t all feel or express emotions in the same way. We also don’t always show emotions in our faces - we can feel sad without crying and we might also cry out of anger or fear. This is why it’s really important to learn to identify and express our feelings through words. This is why we have created Feeling Magnets for children.
About Feeling Magnets Kids
What is it?
The 'My Feelings Box' contains 46 emotions on 46 magnets. Each emotion is color coded to guide the children to know which category of emotions it belongs to. The magnets can be stuck on this inside of the My Feelings Box’s lid or the magnets can be taken out and put on a fridge or another metallic surface.
Children aged 8-12
To be used at home, on the go, in classrooms, with therapists, etc.
How is it used?
Children can use the 'My Feelings Box' to express their feelings about different situations in their life in the safety of their box. They can also express the intensity of their emotions with the thermometer magnet and also share how they would like to feel in order to help them transition. Parents, teachers and therapists can use the 'My Feelings Box' as a starting point for discussions or to work through specific exercises to train the emotional literacy of the child.
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