THE RISK OF SETTING THINGS STRAIGHT (PART 2)
This is part 2 of “The risk of setting things straight”. If you haven’t read part part 1 yet, you can read it here.
Katie took a chance by sharing how she felt and what she thought with her friend Alex. She allowed herself to be vulnerable, which turned out to be a key factor that made it OK for her friend to respond and also make himself vulnerable.
THE RISK OF SETTING THINGS STRAIGHT (PART 1)
We can easily find ourselves in complicated situations or misunderstandings with family members, friends, co-workers or teammates. How we handle such moments has a great effect on the outcomes – do these relationships survive? Do they grow and strengthen? Or do they break and fade out of our lives?
How we act can lead to weeks of agonizing emotional suffering because things are not clear and because our minds are racing to weave webs of creative stories. Sometimes it can even lead to destroying a cherished relationship. But it doesn’t have to be this way…
EASIER SAID THAN DONE... EVERY DAY OUTBURST OF ANGER
Recently I’ve been seeing a lot of people teaching and preaching different things. While what they are teaching is very interesting and eye opening, spending time with these people, I realize that they don’t always practice what they preach. I am guilty of this too. I have learned a lot about emotions in the past years, I have a very good understanding of them and yet there are still times where I look back at a moment that just passed to reallze that I could have handled that situation much better. Yes, it is easier to talk about something then to actually do it, live it, breath it. But we need to start somewhere.
WHAT IS IN THE PAIN OF A BREAKUP
The heartache that follows a breakup is painful... Whether you are the one who made the call or not. It can feel so painful that we might become angry towards the other person or critical of everything that was. Or we might even start to reconsider and question if it really was the right decision for the relationship to end.
I can remember my breakups very well. I might have made the decision to end the relationships but that didn't mean what followed was easy. I was literally aching.
4 REASONS WHY CHANGE IS SO DIFFICULT (AND HOW TO MAKE IT EASIER)
I grew up moving homes with my family every couple of years and as enriching as the experience was, it was also always very difficult every time. Moving homes (and in our case, countries and even continents during a time where there was no Facebook and Skype yet – and I’m not that old), meant starting a new life every time. So yes, change was definitely a part of my life and it was not easy...
WHY AM I FEELING SO SAD?
Last weekend I was reminded that mastering our emotions by far doesn't mean that we don’t experience any unpleasant emotions anymore. Yes actually, mastering our emotions means that we still experience the waves of all emotions but that we can surf them instead of getting dragged under by them.
DIGGING DEEPER TO FIND WHAT IS GOING ON FOR ME
My colleague and I are normally in touch pretty much all the time. We know what is going on in each others lives, we keep each other posted on what we are working on. In general there is a Feeling of connection between us - sometimes a bit more and sometimes a little less - but it’s there. A few weeks ago, I experienced a week of extreme discomfort.
DO I LET ANGER GET THE BEST OF ME? OR DO I GET THE BEST OF ANGER?
It was a busy Sunday morning. I was tired after a tough week and I allowed myself to snooze which meant I didn’t have the chance to eat a proper breakfast. After a quick shower, I rushed to my 9 am appointment at the vet to get my cat vaccinated, I picked up the dry cleaning on my way back, dropped home the very unhappy cat and headed off to do my weekly grocery shopping. In between activities I tried to answer all the work emails that I didn’t have the chance to answer during the week. Yet again, everything in a rush…
TUNA BURGER DISCOVERY
"I don't cook. I don't like to cook nor I am good at it. Who am I kidding, I can't even get scrambled eggs right!
I am lucky that my partner loves to cook and he is really good at it. His steaks are to die for, seafood paella is simply amazing, not even mentioning the spinach and mango salad with almonds! Delicious! And as I like to eat good food, we are a pretty good fit in the cooking-eating department. :)
Last Sunday he had to work. Luckily I had the day off so I decided to go out of my comfort zone and show him that I care, by cooking us dinner: tuna burgers with basil, cardamon, mint and touch of lemon, with a healthy salad on the side. I found a recipe online and it came highly recommended from the users. So I decided to give it a go.
Generally I am more of a last minute person, my motto "let's figure things out as we go along". But this time I prepared. I went to the shop on Saturday, bought fresh tuna, herbs and all of the other ingredients and a good bottle of red wine. On Sunday, I drove to a shop 3 miles away just to get fresh rolls for the burgers.